41 It would be a welcome discovery to find that she feels like I treat her differently than anyone else does, and that she likes it. When still not a couple.
42
A girl who’s never been in a relationship, or stayed in one when it became
clear it wouldn’t lead to marriage, is a smart girl.
44
Generally speaking, people’s voices don’t have so much variation that some is
inherently jarring. It’s usually something that’s easy to ignore—when it’s
working normally, you don’t notice it. that said, if on top of everything else,
she has a beautiful voice, she can make me very, very weak—soft, rather, for
her.
45
Does she like writing letters, getting and reading them? It would be a good way
to stay connected, not to mention grow in our understanding of each other and
be continually romantic.
46
Knowing that cellulite is easily treated by exercise, its presence would show
that someone isn’t physically active. So it would be a warning sign to me that
we have different lifestyle interests.
47
Devotion to God is of the utmost importance. If she takes her cues for moral
and social behavior from any other source than Christian theology, as being of
more importance than it, then her priorities are wrong, her actions are
unreliable, and I can’t but keep my distance.
48
What are her keenest interests? Her priority reading list should be
theologically relevant—the works of Spurgeon, Luther, Calvin rather than
popular fiction, for example. It reveals a presence or lack of desire to
continue to learn and grow in wisdom. In a very practical sense, it would
suggest to me her willingness to “sit under” me and learn from my exposition of
Scripture as the household pastor and Bible teacher [Ephesians 5:25-26]
49 An
add-on to #41, to make sure I don’t confuse anyone as to my meaning. It would
be fine if she thinks I treat her differently than other people treat her, not differently than I treat other people. A subtle, yet big difference. Should I
be less respectful, less polite, or less pleasant toward others, implied if I
am more so toward her? That would be
favoritism: covetous of her, and
deceitful to her.
~ Rak Chazak
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